So I know that some of you are going to read this and think “Stop whining and be thankful you’re not overweight like the rest of us!”. The truth of the matter is this though, when an overweight person goes out to eat I doubt the waiter will make a remark regarding how much food they eat like “Oin oink!”, but there seems to be no restraint on comments being made about how skinny I am and how I eat like a bird.
I have a medical condition that makes it hard for me to gain weight. Before I got married last year I stood naked in front of the mirror and started to cry because my skin looked like it was stretched out over my bones.
The last thing I want to hear ALL DAY LONG from EVERYONE is how thin I and lucky I am. I’m not lucky. Fat, skinny, or in between doesn’t matter unless you are healthy! So the next time you remark how skinny someone is, consider the possibility they will be just as hurt if you had called someone fat!
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This is a great post.
People obsess WAY too much over “skinny” these days. In our current society, there is really no such thing as “too thin” so those who see you and observe that you are naturally thin probably envy you.
It also seems as if no one is happy with the body type they were given. I have a “skinny” neighbor who made extensive efforts to gain weight because she wanted to look like she had more curves and “sexy meat on (her) bones”. She tried eating everything in sight and taking weight gain supplements, but nothing worked and she is still as skinny as ever and HATES when other people comment on it.
I have a “skinny” friend who has hyperthyroid, gastroparesis, and type 1 diabetes. She doesn’t like being skinny, either, and has told me several times that she wishes she could gain a few pounds, but since she can’t eat on some days (and the gastroparesis causes high blood sugar which causes weight loss), it’s pretty much impossible. And sick as it is, she has had people tell her that they wish they had her illnesses, so they could be skinny too.
I have noticed that people like commenting on body size, in general. I actually get told that I look like I am in good shape and “healthy” looking because at 5′6″ and 125 pounds (female of course), I am neither skinny nor fat. And I never make remarks regarding other people’s body types because I am quite sure that those being told are already AWARE of how they look and don’t need to hear it from rude strangers.
People need to value health more. If they think they are fat, they can lose weight, but they can’t usually cure chronic illnesses (with the exception of some obesity-related complications).
Aidyn on January 23rd, 2008 at 2:33 pm | Link
I believe that its all a matter of opinion. Aidyn, you said that your not skinny nor fat, right? Well, where I live…dowin south in Texas, you are considered pretty slim. But thats just an opinion. But I will say this, society does have some very vain tendencies. What defines what sexy is? What defines what beautiful is? It depends on what part of society we live in. And bottom line is, be happy in your own skin. You have a husband who loved you as a “skinny” person. Love youself, just the way you are. Excuse my french, but **** whoever makes a comment about your weight. People need to mind their own damn business. In my case, I am a curvy woman, but i’m also a curvy full figured woman. So one day, I went to see my father (who is disgusted by full figured or overweight people) and the first thing he did when he saw me was say, “Wow, you’ve gotten so big.” And it hurt. Because I’m a beautiful woman. And I’ve given birth to two beautiful boys. So if all he could see at that moment was my extra pounds instead of ME, then **** him too. Thats my take on it….I have to love me…and so do u…love yourself ma…i’m sure you beautiful
Shawnee on August 24th, 2008 at 6:57 am | Link
I think when someone is overweight, the issue isn’t always about their size itself. When I see someone that big, it tells me that they are lazy and have no discipline or self-respect and that bleeds over to every aspect of their life. If it were my choice, I’d never hire a very large person because if they are lazy slobs in their personal life, how can I trust they won’t be the same way at work? We also have a problem here where I work with overweight people stealing lunches from the fridge that don’t belong to them…that’s damn sad. I also hate that large people take up two seats on a plane and don’t get charged double for it. Their fat blobs over on my side and it’s disgusting. When your body start affecting other people’s personal space, you need to do something about it. Being a little overweight is nothing, I’m talking about the kind of people that take up the whole aisle, causing me to suck in against the wall just so they can get past. Consider what your body is doing to everyone else. Stay home if you’re going to be that obnxious. It doesn’t matter that you are comfortable with how you look - consider what that does to us!
anon on November 12th, 2008 at 10:48 am | Link