As a guy, I’m expected to hold open a door (or open it in the first place) for a woman, but heaven forbid a woman open a door, or hold it open for me.
Most of the time, a woman will open the door only wide enough for herself to slip through, even if she sees me heading toward the door behind her.
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…and they never remember to put the toilet seat back up.
I understand that it is usually customary in pre-feminist times for a man to hold open a door for a woman, but seriously, what is REALLY the big deal? I have never walked through a door and let it slam in a woman’s or ANYONE’s face for that matter! That is the height of rudeness and discourtesy!
But why do I have to continually be made to feel guilty about not holding the door open for women at times? I just can’t fathom why I have to feel so guilty or chastened about it.
confused 21st century male on November 20th, 2007 at 6:47 pm | Link
Don’t feel too guilty. You fellas who don’t like holding the door for a lady only make me look that much better when I do. So, no guilt ! I encourage you to slam the door on her every chance you get. And I will be there with my abundance of chivalry (just don’t tell that I leave the lid up on purpose every time) to save the day!!!
Kent on March 28th, 2008 at 11:15 am | Link
It’s just common courtesy. Gender shouldn’t really be an issue. You’re a dick if you don’t hold the door for someone, whether you’ve got one or not.
x-chromosome on May 9th, 2008 at 3:01 pm | Link
As a woman, I am annoied by women who don’t hold open the door.. I might not hold the door open for a man or woman all the tie but I atleast slide my hand along the frame and give it an extra push so it might stay open long enough for them to catch it without “opening” it again. I don’t expect people to wait for me to get to a door, holding it open the whole time. But if you know I’m behind you and you only open the door enough for yourself to barely slip through thats just RUDE! Even better is where there is a handle on the other side and they pull the door shut due to outside temperatures. Then it’s like a tug-o-war to get the door back open.
People just need to be nice, no matter their gender
Morgan on July 24th, 2008 at 9:57 am | Link
Let’s not forget about those folks of both gender that you hold a door for and they can’t even say thanx…
Rich on November 6th, 2008 at 2:03 pm | Link
I’m glad that there are others that feel the same way I do. I always look behind me when entering a door to see if there is anyone who needs a second or two to get to there. In my experience, I’d say one in every 15 women will actually hold a door. Maybe its a result of the way that they were raised. In order to deserve equality, you must treat others with the same respect and consideration that you expect.
Dave on March 6th, 2009 at 3:14 am | Link
Woman’s Lib destroyed the man’s desire for being nice to women!
I’m a guy and I hold the door open if somebody is behind me, regardless of their gender, it just seems rude not to, and most of the time they say thanks.
Zaktan on September 26th, 2009 at 12:44 am | Link
I found this discussion because I wondered whether or not I was the only one who noticed this (yes, I’m a man). Regardless of gender I always look back and, depending on how far away someone is, often hold the door. I am always amazed, which is often, when women not only don’t hold the door but also don’t thank me when I do! I have to wonder if, in this country, this is the result of women being raised as princesses and to believe that men are there to give but that they do not necessariily have to reciprocate. I find most men are more polite with each other, and with women, then women are with anyone! I am not a woman hater- I just don’t understand how the gender who professes on the whole to be more peaceful and concerened about children and charities can behave so selfishlessly in public?
Anon on December 5th, 2009 at 1:05 pm | Link
I agree with you….I am a woman who does hold doors open for everyone….I always check to see if someone is behind me and I will hold it open -even more than just a few seconds if need be.
My pet peeve is when I do this and someone can’t even take a second to say “thanks” (especially when I’ve taken the time to wait for them to slowly approach the door). LOL