My Biggest Complaint About Stubborn Asian Parents

I’m going to use this as a venting place….

My report card from this semester came out, and they weren’t up to my parents standards. Just FYI, my parents are ASIAN. So what is their punishment? I have to quit my band program. That made me so angry that I threw a huge fit. I told them that I always had room for improvement and I will work harder next year, but they apparently don’t accept second chances. Performing music is the only thing that I am confident I am good at. Even though I may not be the best, I’m proud after every performance and the adrenaline keeps me going. Through band, I’ve met many great people and became friends with them. They are the reason why I became a social person. If I never joined band, I’d still be the old, anti-social, quiet, shy, and unmotivated person I used to be. I have tried to reason with my parents about why I should stay, but they never listen to me. I doubt they ever listen. When I try to say something to them, they would either roll over my words, change the subject, or find something else to blame me on. I hate this. This has been the hardest thing I had to go through. I’ve told friends what had happen, and my sister tried to convince my mom to let me stay, but there has been no luck. I think problems like these take time, but I only have less than two months left before band camp starts. I really want to stay in the band program so I can get 4 year/ senior status awards and scholarships. Two parents have tried talking to my mom about this, but my mom would always talk to them in rage and hang up. I have emailed my band director about everything that happened and have been honest with him as much as possible so he can understand the situation more, and he had a good point why I should not quit. Quitting is never the answer to anything and colleges never accept quitters. It makes me really mad whenever my parents bring up the topic about how I’m not staying in band anymore. I know it has only been three days since all this started happening, but they are really getting on my nerves!!! They already told me that they do not want to talk to my band director. Instead, they want ME to talk to him and say that I don’t want to stay in the program anymore. Excuse me Mom, it’s YOU that wants me to quit, not me. And saying the fact that I don’t want to stay is lying. What kind of parents force their kids to lie? I know why they refuse to talk to my band director. It’s because they KNOW that NO ONE can out talk my band director. I’ve been crying over the same **** for three days now. Since I joined, I’ve been working extremely hard to improve on my instrument and I have progressed a lot. Now, all my hard work is being thrown to ashes. I mean, how would you feel if you have been working really hard on something you love, and all of a sudden, it’s for nothing?

This isn’t fair. Life isn’t fair. The band really needs me, and I really want to stay for four years. If I stay for four years, I have the opportunity for scholarships and awards. This has only been my freshman year and my first year in band. My parents are making me really really really mad. They have already presented me with the receipt they paid for fairshare and told me to ask for a refund. Fairshare is NOT REFUNDABLE!! It clearly said that in the paper when we register for band. What the hell is wrong with my asian parents? Why are the so unfair and stubborn? Both parents are all on one side, but I have about 175 people on mine. I know by spreading this is making things more complicated, but I’ll do ANYTHING if it means to stay in band. Playing music is my passion, and I’m NEVER going to give it up. I just wish my parents can use the ears that God gave to them to listen to other people’s opinions.

For three days, I have tried to remain and look as calm as possible whenever they remind me about quitting band, but inside, I am raging like fire, and my friends have been trying their best to help. I am pissed as hell at the moment. -___- I tried my best not to cuss in this.

How do you deal with stubborn Asian parents?