My husband thinks it’s ok for him to “be himself” if he wants to blow up at somebody, or when he doesn’t agree with what somebody else has done.
Being “himself” includes being a rude asshole and saying whatever comes into his mind first. I have suggested on numerous occassions to stop, breath, and think about what message he wants to convey before he goes off. He says I’m telling him not to be himself.
This isn’t what I thought I was marrying, but it’s what I’ve got.
Oh…joy…
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I think that you should either talk to him about it or leave his ass.
Ashley on January 11th, 2010 at 11:19 am | Link
I do, to, and I am a male. People make choices, and you can choose to live with his and suffer from them, or to do as Ashley said.
My Dad blew up all the time, I grew up with an asshole father, he had a chemical imbalance due to diabetes that made him bi-polar. His “condition” didn’t mean crap to me, I still hated him because of his temper. He blew up on me, my Mom, and my brother, and we all dealt with it for much longer than we should have. Think about that if you decide to have children with this man.
Leave him if he does not stop. I was married to an ass hole much worse than you guy, He was emotionally, physically, manipulative and controlling bastard…But now…he is very ill, stroke, seizures, and his second wife of whom he had an affair w/ for at least 2 yrs while we were married is nasty, sloppy, no-cleaning, no-cooking plain and country ghetto black female. Oh well, he lost a good and pretty cool woman for that? He had at least 95% but lost it for 20-30%….
Alane on April 10th, 2010 at 3:59 pm | Link