Wow, reading all these posts really hit home with me. For the longest time I could not figure out why friends and coworkers (all females by the way) would distance themselves from me.
I am a somewhat naive person believing in hard work and also sharing successes. Never would I have thought that people can be so cold and downright dangerous in their jealousy towards me.
I can deal with jealous friends, I usually cut those so called friendships out of my life. Of course I have found that I have hardly any friends anymore due to my having to battle their jealousy towards me.
But my real troubles are at work. It all started with jealous women coworkers and that jealousy doubled when I began to move up in my job and became more sucessfull. Not all women coworkers are jealous but the ladies that are try to hurt me every day. They ignore me on purpose, do not greet back, send nasty glares and just stare at me in hateful ways. I can not believe how low these women go to hurt me. Whenever they notice a mistake I have made they go straight to management and report me and try to get me into trouble. They have even gone so low to form a group and Email to my boss that I am not doing a good job. I have printed these Emails and I have kept them for evidence.
This has now snowballed to the point that management at my job, after hearing the numerous complaints of my jealous coworkers to reprimand me. I am a very hard worker and I even continue to be friendly with all these bullies. Sadly, all of management is female and they seem to look at me as trouble. I am now being exposed for little mistakes and even reprimanded for small things that have no bearing on the quality of my work. I am the highest performer in this business, very sucessful at what I do and now I am facing a group of jealous coworkers and managers alike that are now willing to cooperate to bully me and to intimidate me and get me out of the workplace. It is amazing for me to watch these women, as they are very obvious in their task trying to eliminate me. Often as I walk in the door of my work one of these women is already waiting for me ready to harass me before I even begin working. I am facing a jealousy campaign against me.
That being said, my life is far from perfect. I am middle aged, recently divorced and trying to cope with paying the bills like everyone else. That even makes it hurt worse that people are trying to take me down like this and never have I done anything to hurt them and I just can not understand it. I am a person who will go straight to work and I am proud of my work. I am a very hard worker and I love my customers in this business.
Sadly, my sucess is one of the things these women, including my managers, must be jealous of. I always try to bend over backwards to please them, only to be met with additional criticism. I have even noticed that they are now moving in on several of my products in this company and they are trying to sabotage my work by either not ordering work products that I need or to plainly remove some of my products from inventory alltogether. This is a new low for them. How does one fight this? It is impossible.
I am a hard worker, and heaven forbid I do happen to be attractive too. Oh my god, that is a lethal combination, because no matter what position these women are in my company they do not like me for those reasons alone. I am not confrontational at all and I prefer to do my work and stay out of their way. But they always find me and they always try to tear me down. I don’t know how to deal with this negativity but now I know that I am not alone and that helps so much. But what can one do with this kind of information? There has got to be a way to fight the jealous bully behavior of females? I would never ever behave in the way these women do. Aren’t they ashamed at all? How can they live with themselves? How do these women sleep at night?