Comments on: Jealous “Friends”

By: Aubergine

Aubergine — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 06:17:45 +0000

I have been feeling this from people and I only got engaged about 15 hours ago! I have been with my boyfriend since I was a junior in high school, and now I am a semester away from graduating college. He recently got a very good job that he loves after searching for over a year after graduating college and being so down on money that he would have to borrow money from me just to pay his student loans. We have wanted to get engaged for years but have known we should wait until a better time when he had a career and I was close to starting mine. Anyway after getting much congratulations on facebook from some friends we don’t see often my cousin writes a comment “are you two really engaged?” amist all these congratulatory comments. Well duh, lol. I honestly don’t know if this was a matter of being uncertain (though I’m not entirely sure how she could be) or being in disbelief. She has been with her boyfriend about 4 years and she is a year younger than me and her boyfriend is a sophmore in college, so it’s probably going to be a good 2-3 years before he even starts trying for a career. I understand the feeling of being anxious to get engaged, but I feel she should be a little more rational and realize she might have a few years to wait. Or at the very least not take it out on me via a snide remark on some dumb website :/

By: Doubletake

Doubletake — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 01:30:39 +0000

To Hobo: I have a sister-in-law that does this. And it took me a long time to even notice it because the instances were weeks/months apart or I didn’t know right away that it had happened. At first after noticing I was perplexed, then a little annoyed, then I felt kinda sorry for her. I don’t have a “for sure” answer except that I believe she must admire me/my decisions an awful lot and want to be like me. Funny though, because along with this behavior she is very guilty of badmouthing/gossiping/judging me to other family members……

By: Hobo

Hobo — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 23:03:39 +0000

Does anyone have any friends that like to copy or immitate you or another person. I have this one lady that does just that. For example, if you wear a new pair of shoes to work because I needed a new pair, she will come to work next Monday and have a new pair of shoes even if she don’t need a new pair. If I get my hair cut, the very next day she will come in with a new hair cut.i could go on and on. What is the deal. Is this person unsure of herself. I don’t get it. I find it sort of weird. If I remember correctly, I got a different car and the very next month, she went out and bought herself a different car. Has ANYONE been through this before? I want to hear anyones feedback on this one. Please respond.

By: min-max

min-max — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 00:33:02 +0000

Don’t get wrong the whole thing. Your friend’s in love with you. She won’t tell you. She expects you to realize it by yourself. So when she knows you’re going to someone else, she doesn’t like it of course, and can’t just be denied. Not that she doesn’t want you to be happy, but wants you together with her.

By: DM

DM — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 23:57:23 +0000

One more thing - if it’s not just jealousy - what about those who can’t get their lives together, but they just always seem to have the answer to ALL your problems? Especially when you least want to talk about it and in front of all the friends/family you don’t wanna talk in front of!

Man, now you got me really thinking on this one! Thanks again!

By: DM

DM — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 23:55:39 +0000

Hey, not a ridiculous topic at all. I can’t count how many times I wanted to sort through just these same feelings, post online, etc., but just didn’t feel I had a shot at being taken seriously. Or worse, the folks I want to complain about and the rest like them shoot it down fast!

Thanks for this posting, we need more discussions like this!

By: Amyrlin

Amyrlin — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 17:26:06 +0000

I have had people in my life do similar things, that were supposedly friends, they are obviously very unhappy with themselves to not celebrate in a loved ones joy. Too bad for them