My Biggest Complaint About Jealous “Friends”

Every had a friend and they seem to always be willing to be there for you when you have a hard time? Seems like they have so much advise to give when things aren’t going right in your life? But on the contrary, when things start to look up for you, their whole expression seems to change?

Have you ever felt that your friend MIGHT be jealous of you, but quickly dismissed the thought because you told yourself, “She’s my friend, she loves me…she would NEVER be jealous of me…how could I think such a thing!” Well, newsflash people, you WEREN’T fooling yourself. Some of the very people who you think love you do NOT want to see you happy. Or better yet, you can be happy, as long as your not happier than THEY are.

I know this may seem like a ridiculous topic, and I apologize if it does. But if there is one thing I can’t stand is someone who claims to be my friend, but shows signs of someone who doesn’t want to see me happy.

Example, I have a best “friend” who has given me more than enough reason to make me believe that she is the jealous type. And I denied it to myself for years. We always sit on the phone and talk about relationships and marriage and all those kind of things. She used to always talk like she would be so happy when they day came for us to get married and this and that. But keep in mind, we were both single women who didn’t see marriage anywhere in the near future. But then I met a handsome sexy young man who I fell instantly in love with and after dating for a while, we got engaged. When i told her this…the look on her face….was priceless. She didn’t hug me, or seem happy at all. She said with her mouth “Oh…well…if thats what you want to do…go for it” (which is still a LAME ass response to your best friend getting married). But she barely talks about it, if I mention it, she never really has anything to say.

And she is not the only one I have come across. It seems like we live in a time where people just don’t seem to want to see others surpass them. Its like it’s all a contest. Who can have the most money or have the most attractive companion? Who can have the best job? I say that it shouldn’t matter. Everybody’s purpose in life is different, therefore everybody’s progression in life will be different. That isn’t to say one person is on a “higher” level than the next. A woman who is a single mother and successfully raises her kids is just as important as a Doctor. Hell, for all we know, she was the one who raised that Doctor.

If you have any friends that seem to be a little hesitant on your happiness, then maybe that person is not a friend at all. Maybe its time to reconsider…I know I did.